'He told me that [she] wanted to put him in a diaper': Mother tries to force bedwetting son's sleepover guest to wear a diaper, gets shut down by his mom

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Jan 15, 2024 6:00 PM EST

Sleepovers are a recipe for disaster, especially if you don't know the parents. It's so much easier to host things in your house where you know nobody is crazy, but when you drop your kids off somewhere else, there's no guarantee everything will be okay. When I was a kid, I slept over at my friend's house, and frequently, her parents would take me to the local megachurch with them without asking my parent's permission. It's one thing to have a household policy of "If you're sleeping over on Saturday night, you must go to church with us on Sunday," but it's a whole other thing not to tell the parents that that's the expectation. 

One mother recently found herself in a far more horrifying sleepover situation than that. Her son was sleeping at a friend's house, and when he called her asking her to pick him up, she was horrified to hear why. 

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    0₂20 r/AmltheAsshole u/Notmychildnyoubitch • 9h AITA For removing my son from a sleepover Hi I'm 37F. I have a 10 year old son. I'll call him Sam.
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    My son was invited to a sleepover from one of his classmates, lets call him Taylor. Because I didn't know his parents very well, we got together a few times so we could get to know each other. We eventually set up a date and the other mother which I'll call Lady for now on, insisted on hosting the event. I agreed and later dropped my son off, telling him to behave and all that jazz.
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    Toward the end of the day around 9-ish, I got a call from my sons phone. He has a basic flip phone for things like this. He was upset and wanted to come home. I asked what was wrong and he told me that Lady wanted to put him in a diaper. I told him to put her on the phone and she answered it in a huff telling me my son wasn't being stubborn and misbehaving. I could hear my son in the background saying he just wanted to go home. Sol told her I'd be there in a few minutes and hung up.
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    When I got there i was let in by her husband, he apologized for the trouble and I went to find my son. He was still upset when I found him sitting at their kitchen table along with Taylor. Asked him what was going on and he explained to me that because Taylor wet his bed Lady wanted him to wear a diaper as well. I turned and looked at lady and told her Sam doesn't wet the bed and didn't need to put anything extra on for bed.
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    She argued back that it wouldn't hurt him and would make Taylor feel better. To be honest I kind of understood where she was coming at and even considered asking Sam if he'd be willing to do it for his friend.
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    That was until I saw the thing, I was expecting a pullup. But this was what looked like a thick adult diaper meant to fit kids. Then the shocker came when my son told me she tried me make him take off his pants and lay on the floor so she could put it on him. I turned back to Lady and told how inappropriate this all was and collected his things to leave. She got belligerent and said Sam didn't have anything she hasn't seen before.
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    So we left, Taylor the pore boy looked crestfallen. Not that a blame him at all. But my problem and the reason for this post is do to the fact Lady put what happened on facebook. Most of the commenters are on her side. So am I the for taking my child home?
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    Squiggles567 . 8h Aficionado [11] NTA. Making a 10-year old take off his pants against his will in order to put him into an un-needed diaper would get you in trouble with the police in most countries. I would politely let one or two other gossipy moms in the class know what is going on and let her be rightly reviled.
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    Her intent was good, but her execution was horrific. If she put hands on my son to make him take his pants off, there would be to pay, let me tell you. I wouldn't put my hands on her, but there would be words with the right people. If you feel the need to correct things on FB, I would say: "Lady, every story has two sides. All I ask is that strangers do not seek to put their hands on my son's undressed body." But that would cause a sh*tstorm, so maybe don't... ... Reply 4.1k
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    Notmychildnyoubitch OP 8h ● She worded it like I let myself into he house and told her what she could and couldn't do in her own home. She presents herself like a good Christian lady. She underplayed her part and overplayed mine. ... G 4 1.8k
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    Personal_Regular_569. 7h Share the truth with someone you trust to spread it. It only takes one person. Make sure they know all the details. You did the right thing. "Nothing I haven't seen before" is a disgusting excuse to have a child expose themselves to you. Children deserve respect and bodily autonomy. Your son is able to dress himself. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I hope you've been able to make sure Sam knows he did the right thing. Please be prepared for this to turn into bully
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    SnooWoofers6381.6h I cannot imagine that the other 10 yo boy who's still wetting the bed and wearing a diaper to bed will breathe a word about this at school. One mean comment from him and your son might mention the "diaper" situation. ... 4421 421
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    LostFireHorse • 6h Wouldn't be surprised if the bed wetting is a stress reaction due to the mum. 592
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    0.0 SlinkyGuy 6h Why? ● 413 herefromthere. 5h Certified Proctologist [25] Because the mother's extreme cautiousness is weird. Maybe kid did it once when he was five and she's insisted on this infantilising and insulting rigmarole ever since. When I was a kid, I knew someone who covered everything in plastic, kids could only play with one thing at a time and were not allowed to have full fat milk or cereal that wasn't plain all-bran. Control/clean freak parenting is terrifying. ... 213
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    Time_Explanation8090 - 8h Uh NO!!!!!! Your son is 10 and she wanted him to take his pants off so she could put on a diaper?!!! !!!!!! And then had the audacity to post about it on fb! Pftttt not only are you not the nicer than I would be , you're way (I do feel bad for the embarrassment that the Taylor kid probably felt) ... Reply 4870
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    cornerlane. 6h His mother ruïnes his friendships ... 分 138
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    hoginlly. 5h In trying to prevent her son from being embarrassed, she made things thousands of times worse. Kids sometimes wet the bed, it happens, the thing to do is change the sheets, reassure them (chat with them in private if it's an ongoing thing) and let them get back to sleep. This mother basically shone a spotlight on her son wetting the bed in front of his friend, who she then tried to change like a baby? What the everloving ??? I expect hundreds of thousands of therapy in poor Taylor's
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    rutheordare . 7h Former child welfare social worker here! NTA and under NO circumstances is what she tried to do to your son appropriate!! Please have a moment with your son to tell him he did the right thing and you are proud of him for saying no and informing you right away. Saying no in a situation like that can be so scary and traumatic for a kiddo. Express again that what his friend's mom did was extremely inappropriate and give some space for him to talk about his feelings. Reply 4563 ...
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